Social Emotional
Step 1 Problem and The Tunnel
Tunnel
Problem
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The tunnel represents problems or challenges.
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Though the focus on problems does little to solve them, it is important to define them.
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Problems can be complex or simple.
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A problem for one person may not a problem for another.
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Problems and challenges are important to build resilience.
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How a person approaches a problem determines their mindset.
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It is important to spend a moment defining what a problem could be in order to determine what the opposition or the solution could be.
Solve Problems
In the tunnel
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Problems trigger a certain amount of stress.
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Small amounts of stress can be motivating and can enlist your brain and body's resources to go about solving the problem or task. (desirable difficulty)
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Solving 'just right sized problems allows your brain to enter the state of "Flow"
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Getting 'stuck' in the tunnel is undesirable
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When the problem is perceived as unmanageable, too big or some people get 'stuck' in the problem which increases stress. This can cause people to exhibit a variety of responses.
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Some people view problems as evidence of failure or fallibility.
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It is essential to encourage people and support them through problems, so they have the resilience to get through them on their own. Do not ever solve other's problems for them.
Persevere
Integrity and Honesty
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Sometimes when a problem appears too big, people attempt unhealthy strategies to solve the problem
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Dishonesty
- Avoidance
- mess around or talk to a neighbor
- hiding
- intoxication
- social media
- getting lost in a book
- Blame
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- These approaches only serve to cause other problems.
- These additional problems compound the problem and stress.